Couples Therapy
Couples come to therapy for so many different reasons.
Sometimes there’s repair work and healing to be done after the trust is broken or a betrayal.
Some couples have intimacy issues or want to work through bumps in their relationship and bring things to the next level.
Sometimes, things feel so frustrating. It may feel you’re nagging all the time, or they are. You may end up yelling at your partner or making nasty remarks.
It feels like you’re trying so hard, and you wonder why they don’t see it. Maybe all you hear is criticism, that you need to do more.
Later, maybe it’s water under the bridge. But then it happens again… and again and again. Or perhaps it never ends.
In the meantime, you’re walking on eggshells, wondering when the other will erupt or shut down again.
When the person you need the most just shuts down on you…
This is the worst. It feels like solitary confinement when they put that wall up!
They’re gone – they physically walked out… or maybe they’re still there but shut down. Either way, they’ve gone behind the wall again, and you’re left with anger, sadness, and feelings of betrayal.
Essentially, it feels as though they’ve abandoned you. You feel alone, hurt, and helpless.
It may seem hopeless, but there’s a way back to each other.
And it’s all about connection. Connection is the key to our well-being, but we can get stuck in cycles with our partner, weakening that bond. When that sense of connection fades, we feel disconnected and threatened.
When we feel this way, it’s hard to understand our feelings and needs. And, as you can imagine, it’s almost impossible to then express them to our partner, the one person who matters most in the world!
That’s why I’m here. I can get you back on track!
We’ll use Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), a proven method to help couples feels safer and more secure in their relationship. Developed by Dr. Sue Johnson, EFT focuses on slowing things down, understanding our internal processes, and seeing how this affects our attempts to communicate and connect with our partners.
Here’s how you’ll reconnect to your partner…
You’ll talk more openly and communicate better. I’ll show you how to heal from relationship injuries, including affairs.
You will learn how to cope with the challenges, big and small.
Know what it means to feel less alone, have less conflict, and experience more connection.
You will feel more connected and safe, in your skin and with each other.
You will deepen your intimacy.
Whatever your issues are, my role as your guide is to help you steer the process. I offer respect, and I want you to feel our space together is a safe place to explore the issues that cause disconnection in your relationship.
Often, the stress that couples experience causes them to communicate and behave in a pattern or cycle. I’ll be on both your sides, with unconditional regard, as we uncover this cycle, its unhealthy habits that cause conflict, distance, and unmet needs.
Together, we’ll slow things down. We’ll explore ways to communicate and relate that feel more effective, that create the connection.
Together, you’ll learn how to listen to your partner so they feel heard and so you can express your unmet needs. Together, problem solving and connectedness will become real.
You deserve to live a life abundant with connection.
Are you ready? Ready to reconnect? Ready to work together and take away the negative cycles wreaking havoc on your relationship?
I’m here and ready to work with you at your pace.
Call (508) 254-5663 or email to get started. I offer a free 20-minute consultation where you can tell me what causes the most stress in your relationship, and I’ll share with you my approach and what you can expect from our work together. And most importantly, to see if we feel we’re a good fit. Our relationship is the most important key to success.